73. when it's time to disengage as a bonus mom

Hey Mother Toughers!!!  February goals are underway and so are adjustments to creating the peace.  As a bonus mom, we sometimes hit a place in our journeys where we have to make choices that are painful and also have to make constant adjustment to our parenting, just like any other parent.  In general, parenting comes with continuous changes not only in our children but how we handle situations.  Then as our kids get older we prepare for them to either jump out of the nest themselves or we give them a swift out of the nest; no matter how our kids leave, it is difficult.  Then there are times in a bonus parent's journey that they have to choose to take back their peace and disengage from a bonus child, this can look different for each person.  Jamie Simkins, LCPC (on TikTok) gives us 5 signs it's time to disengage with your stepchild:

1. Feeling frustrated all the time.

2.  Trying harder than their dad (or your bio parent partner).

3.  Feeling chronically unappreciated or wanted.

4.  Losing focus on your why.

5.  Self worth struggles.

If you choose to disengage, remember that this decision does not make you a bad parent, this is setting healthy boundaries.  You cannot be a good support to the total household if one aspect of that household is taking away your peace.

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